How do you as a parent reassure your child if you are not with them physically when they are scared or lonely? This mother found a way that gave her child the confidence he needed to remind him of her love and unconditional support.
Louise Mallett, 30, from Ipswich, is a mother of three. Her youngest son, Max, was about to attend his first day at “big” school and naturally, Louise was anxious that her son would be overwhelmed. In order to reassure him, she thought of a way to help remind him of her love for him even when she was not around.
Louise came up with an idea. She drew a heart on her own palm and one on his. She told Max that by pressing these hearts they could send hugs to each other.
Louise shared her idea on the Facebook page The Motherload, where her post met with praise. Parents said that it was a “simple and beautiful idea.”
Louise shared: “So, my littlest baby had his first all-dayer at school today, having been in for a couple of morning settling in sessions.”
“I could tell he was feeling a little emotional this morning so we had a chat and came up with the idea of having a heart each and if we pressed it, it sent a hug to the other one (he said he cried as he missed me on his first half day last week) it totally worked!
“I drew a heart on both our hands and gave him a spare one on his arm in case the one on his hand wore off, we “charged” them by holding hands on the way to school and when I picked him up I said did you get my hugs and he happily said yep!
“He also said “I pressed it for a long time Mummy but I didn’t cry,” so I said “Ahhhh that will be that big squeeze I got, did you get my big squeeze back?” and he said yep!”
Proud mother Louise added: “Bless him, here’s to many more happy days at school while I sit at home with the dog and cry that all my babies are at school now…”
Louise’s heartfelt post clearly hit the parenting community in a soft spot, with some mothers confessing the story had reduced them to tears.
One Facebook user, Alison, wrote: “Tears in my eyes reading this. So sweet. I’m totally stealing the idea!! My daughter starts her pre-school for two mornings a week. Her first settling in day is next Monday. We have been together every day since day one.
“It’s a hard decision to let her go but I know she needs to socialise and meet other children/staff in preparation for nursery in January. I’ll be sobbing my heart out with a G&T.”